QUALITIES YOU WANT IN YOUR SPOUSE

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Question: What are the qualities you want in a man?
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Girl: He must be god-fearing, neat, caring, well groomed,
honest, decent, with a vision for his life and home, bla-bla-bla.
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Question: What do you want in a woman?
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Boy: She must love God, neat, sexy, and properly raised,
decent, good in housekeeping...the list is often endless
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Kudos for knowing what you want in your future partner. It's
always beautiful to know what you want and more beautiful
to know that you are not willing to accept anything less.
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We all set standards for ourselves in life even though we don't
always meet those standards. But I love it when I see those
who are focused and who know what they want from life. You
know what you want from life and in a relationship; do you
know what you deserve? I must also let you know that you
are not alone in this because almost everyone wants the same
thing you want in a spouse. But have you asked yourself if you
are anywhere close to being those things everybody wants
from his/her spouse?
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You want a god fearing spouse; do you fear God? Do you still
have your conscience? You want to marry a woman who can
always intercede for you. You want a man who will be the
spiritual head of your home. What efforts are you making to
become that for someone?
You want a very decent spouse; that’s highly commendable.
But, what's your dress sense like? You still sag and walk like
a baboon; you always have your breasts out for every fly to
perch on; you have five earrings on your ears, you have
another on your tongue and eyes; your body is nothing short
of a public toilet and yet you want a decent man/woman for a
spouse.
Your makeup, instead of making you more beautiful, turns you
to a masquerade that should be dreaded. Everything you do is
in the excess, your false lashes look abnormal, your false nails
are way too long, you are close to wearing panties outside the
house and yet you desire a very decent spouse.
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My people, the Igbos have this saying, " odikaodi kpoba,
odikaodi azuru" (you will always attract your likes). What kind
of places do you go to? You sleep and wake in night clubs;
you are a fish when it comes to alcohol; your friends are
nothing to write home about, and yet, you want a decent
spouse. You currently enjoy dating a guy who does not come
home after work. Don’t cry tomorrow because he may not be
home for weeks even when he is in the same city as you.
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I agree with you; you sure need a man of vision who can lead
the way. Women have been conditioned to believe that it's
the man who must have a vision for his home. You move
about aimlessly; you loiter the streets from morning till night;
you are in school is just for the fun of it; you have no vision
apart from graduating and partying. All you think of is what to
wear for that weekend party. Your favorite TV channel is E and
your favorite program is the K…s. You spend time in gossip
about successful people instead of working hard to be
discussed by others.
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Do you have a vision for your life? If you do, what is your
vision? What vision do you have for your spouse? Where do
you see yourself five years from now? What would be your
contributions to his life? What are you bringing to the table if
eventually you become his Mrs.? You have no right to ask for
a spouse with vision if you have none for your life and home.
You want a girl who can cook and keep the home and yet the
only place you visit is a night club. While you date her, you
take pleasure in eating out and visiting all the big hotels and
restaurants in town. You can only get a girl who would be out
every night and come back the following morning to throw her
pants on the floor of your bedroom and sometimes on your
face. It's also possible you get a very good girl who you
would subject to torture as long as she lives with you.
The person should be honest; it's a good one. But why is it
that the only truth we get from you is 'good morning'? You
are lucky to be a part of the GSM generation and so things
are easier for you. As far as you are concerned, there is no
point saying the truth, even to your partner. Right where you
are telling your likes that you want a god-fearing spouse, you
have five social media accounts with different names and
pictures.
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A friend told me how his cousin's fiancé was left in shock
when she saw that the very man she has been in touch with
is her fiancée’s cousin. She put up a newspaper advert asking
for a man in his forties. She lied that she was in her twenties
(she was in her thirties). My friend continued chatting with her
and talking on phone. On the D-day, my friend went to work,
well dressed, hoping to finally meet his dream woman. He had
told his colleagues that someone special was coming. There
entered this lady who was asking for the given name. When
they called my friend, he realized that the very lady he was in
touch with for months and who he supposedly didn't know,
was in his house with her fiancée the previous night. This
brought that lovely relationship to an end.
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Like I said earlier in this article, it is not wrong for you to
know what you want. It is normal for you to want a Mr. or
Mrs. Right, but in doing this, make yourself a Mr./Mrs. Right.
Make sure you are that which you desire in a spouse.
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Change yourself first. Concentrate on becoming that which you
desire in a spouse. God is too merciful not to allow you mess
up the life of His precious child. Marriage is a covenant for
serious-minded people, not those who love to play around.
DO HAVE A HAPPY HOME!